So the end of the year is coming to a quick end and if your year was like mine, you are in agreement that 2017 needs to be better!!

I have talked to many people in the past few months and the topic of conversation has turned time and time again to what is wrong with the person instead of what is right. Many flaws or so called flaws are viewed as problems for that person in regard to society and what society expects from us. I say hogwash….

If you haven’t realized by now what society says about you should be taken with a grain of salt. At best it should go in one ear and out the other.. Yes that is what I said…just ignore it..look past it, shut it down!

There is no need for people to still be in the control business and for others to let their harsh words affect our day to day being.

I refuse to accept nonsense from others about myself. I refuse..Don’t like me…blah@you and bless your heart too..

There are so many more things that I can be concerned about than someone bad talking me…so there…

Seriously though grab a sheet of paper and draw a line down the middle…

Write Pro’s and Con’s across the top…

Think…

Honestly write your (I said, YOURS) positives and negatives on this sheet…

Fold that sheet up and write a date on it for at least 4 weeks out….

Now put it somewhere safe…

Walk away…

In the four weeks, I need you to really think about yourself, what you want, what you need, who you really are, and who you want to be…

Make the adjustments in your life to be YOU…
At the end of the four weeks, look at your list and see if those same words still apply to you..If they don’t mark them out and write new ones.

Even if you feel you are worse than before, revise that list and go back to thinking about your life and what you want out of it..

This thing works.. I have done it and I realized that to feel grateful or to have others feel grateful for me, I had to do something to cause that reaction. I had to be full of love if I wanted others to love me. I had to be kind if I wanted others to be kind to me. I had to be that change… Let me say that again, “I HAD TO BE THAT CHANGE!!!! I had to be the person I was looking for in my life.

I was recently talking with a friend from church and asked him who he listened to, and he said I have the voices of others running through my head telling me who to be. I told him that the only voices he should listen to in his head is his voice and God’s voice. If you are not hearing yourself or God in your head, you are clearly listening to the wrong people. Lots of people will give you great advice, and others give you horrible advice. Follow the steps at the beginning of the blog…let it go in one ear and out the other… I mean that thing…

Everyone doesn’t have your best interest and well being at heart.

Grab a cup of coffee or tea, write your list, put the list away, walk away and make your plan to be who you want to be. When in doubt ask God for guidance. God entertains the prayers of his people..

Dina

I have Chai in my cup…