Just stop…

Okay alright…enough…just stop…

Why do we waste our precious time that we will never get back worrying about something stupid..yeah I said the “S” word…just stupid..

I am so done with folk trying to tell me what I need to care about or be passionate about..done..

Let’s get one thing whom it may concern….YOU ARE NOT THE BOSS OF ME… it…..goood!

Okay tantrum over…

I am serious, so serious…media tells us to stand up, sit down, rollover..are we pets? Think about that…

What happened? When did we become servants of society? I have natural hair which was my choice, but I rocked a perm for years and was cute while doing it… I dressed like a popular kid in Jr. high through today….so what…I have always worn what I felt comfortable in, it if was not a fashion trend for others, it was for me…haha..still don’t care if I do not fit in the box…

When did we become so thirsty for acceptance..I admit I have Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook, and Twitter along with my blog, I am also an Influenster.. Does any of this define me? No but you sure do get some great honest opinions from me…

I had a teacher in High School..,Shout out to Julia Pittman, tell me that you become a real adult when you stop caring what others think or say about you..Some of us have not gotten there yet…

The older I get the more I am that person that says what I think simply because I am grown enough to reap the consequences. CONSEQUENCES…I said it..sure did..

It is past time for us all to get a grip..just you…people will actually respect you more, but guess what?…you won’t care…


who am i?

I had a stark realization this morning…who am i?
Am I Craig’s wife…Dana’s twin…Diane’s child…

Honestly, I am not at 46 years old I have no idea who i am..

I suddenly realized that I do not like hateful people, I do not like rude people, I do not like people who feel they are better than others, I do not like people that say one thing and do another, I do not like people that mistake kindness for weakness. I do not..I…

Times get hard and you wonder to yourself what could I have done better..most times the things you should have done are only apparent after the fact. After someone else has mentioned an idea..

It is easy to view yourself from anothers’ point of view and you often find yourself working toward meeting someone else’s expectations…so sad…what are your self expectations?

who am i?

me, i am me, I am me.. I can not and do not have time for drama or nonsense. I refuse to be a part of it…but woe to them who draw me in..

Hey…wait a minute…maybe I do know who I am..just maybe..

who are you?

Are you a Hater..

How many times have you heard that saying? Don’t be a hater…blah blah blah….


I think that you may be a hater..maybe…

Do you look in the mirror everyday and say hello to yourself? Do you say I like your hair..your clothes…you…? Hmm…let that sink in a minute…

Have you ever treated someone else so well that you secretly wish that someone would do the same for you? Hmmm….

While you do not need anyone else to validate you, you do have to be nurtured from time to time…Why don’t you do it..

You may be experiencing a case of self-hate..I know the golden rule is to treat others as you want to be treated..when was the last time you did?

I know some will say that it is better to give than receive..and yes that is is..but, when do you get taken care of or given things? I don’t mean extravagant things, but little things that make you feel good (for me that would be a massage).

A simple hello beautiful or handsome is a good start. I will say that God did not mean for us to be mistreated even is the one mistreating us is us..

Find that thing that makes you smile, or grin and do it more often…of course unless it hurts NOT do that…

Be kind to yourself, you never know when someone else will..

Dina (I am currently learning this lesson..)

What in the “Free” world….?

I don’t even know where to start…

So you say we are free…free from what?

Free from hate, suppression, aggression, anger, rage, mistrust, oppression….anything?

With so many people dying from brutal assassinations, weather events, prejudice, fear….what in the “Free” world…

What is the “Free” world you say? Well I am certain that when the Bible says “What God has set free is free indeed.” Do not ask me the verse, take the initiative and google it…wow..

I honestly feel like at this point in time in 2017, if we gave someone a job at a pie eating factory, there would be complaints about it..(old saying that still has relevance)!!

God told us that these things in the world would happen, and just because we know that things will happen it doesn’t mean that we are indifferent to it. It means that when we weep, cry and grieve that we have emotions, and are acting accordingly (for others)…right?

God did not give us a spirit of fear but one of power and might…repeat that in your head several times…I can wait..

Can I give you a little hint? This world climate will not get better before it gets much worse…are you prepared in your heart to cling to God for your safety and refuge? I have been in that spot for a long time now, I am still human and worry has come into play, but by the Grace of God, I know where my help comes from…

It is way past time for us to stop playing at life and start living…..

Are you free yet? People put too much stock in how the world treats them and not how they treat the world. If we all were following the golden rule, how great our lives would be…


Can I get a what…?

I am so full of something this week…

I am not worried about it, just I feel like there is so much for me to say..or share..

2017 has been very eventful and there are only 4 months to go until the start of 2018..what will be different?

Will I be different? My situation? My environment? Anything…

I know that in order for things to be different..there has to be a change in me..

A change in me..

Internal, external..either..something!


I am not soliciting advice about what I need to do, it just feels better to get that out into the atmosphere.

When people hint that things are better out than in..there is some logic to that thought. My heart is full right now and I feel like there are things, ideas, words that someone needs to hear. Who am I to stop the flow..

What is the flow you say? The flow that comes out of me is not merely me..The Holy Spirit is that flow…What is flowing from you?

Huh? God has yet given us another chance to share his love with the world, this is one of my chances.

Read Psalm 37 in its entirety. Trust will be blessed.


Where do I start?

Some people are so ungrateful…no matter what you do for them….they want more and more and more……

I do not like all. I admit that I have had times in my foolish youth that I felt like I deserved much more than I had. Honestly, how could I expect more when I had not worked to get it..?

HaHa with age comes wisdom…really? Some of us will never get it..Things do not make the man/woman. It is what works on the inside that your worth. If you don’t believe in God, you are going to need to work that out in yourself. I love God and he has always taken care of me. He blesses me to bless others and to heal others. In this I find my worth…

I do not need anyone else to justify me…but what I do need is for grown folks to start appreciating what they have and to stop being so ungrateful. Nobody owes you anything….No one deserves to be micromanaged by you…or ordered around because you are so insecure in yourself..STOP IT!!!!

I am tired y’all…tired…

just tired..


I like socks..

One thing about me…I like socks..

I like fresh mountain air..

I like eat I mean..

I like singing…

I like babies..

I like me..

Notice what I did there…I did not say a negative thing..NOTHING…

Why do people go out of their way to be so negative about everything?

This past week just showed me that people are still harboring negative ideals about life, and expect others to go with their flow..

I refuse..

At the end of the day, I still have to live with me..I mean you don’t have too..but I do…

And until the day I am influenced to do otherwise, you will find me walking around in fuzzy socks, eating ice on a mountain smiling at babies…and at my silly realness..


Rough weekend..

This has truly been a weekend to remember..

When I finally have time to sit down and catch up with what is going on in the world..I wanna go back to work..

What is happening in our country? I see people cheering on a grown man that has the impulse control of a 2 year old with no home training.

Look up impulse control and you may just see the picture of the person to whom I am referring. I am sad that so many people are still behind this man that clearly does not have our countries best interests on his radar. I do think that when he said that he could shoot someone in broad daylight and not lose a vote…he took that literally.

If you have not been praying for our well being before, perhaps you need to go get an extra sturdy pair of knee pads and get to kneeling. I pray that God send his angels to surround us on a daily basis, and to give us peace. I have an unsettled feeling in my soul that something bad is coming.

In case you did not know, the end of the world is not a bad thing, I long to be in paradise with Jesus and my family that are already there. In Heaven there is no fear, pain, death, sickness or evil. I need that..

Man this has been a rough weekend…I had to face the fact that I am an adult…


I am so tired..

Am I the only one that is so tired of seeing people mope around acting…”acting” depressed or so bored…there are so many things in this world to do to act like you are so burdened down or heavy laden that you have a little gray cloud of despair over you all the time…..sigh..

Again, I was around a group of younger people yesterday and there seems to be always one that acts like the world is against them and OMG they may die if something doesn’t go their way…Let me say that I know depression is real, and that sadness is something that people experience that has a hold on their lives..I know that..I probably was that person when I was younger..

Boo on me to act that way when I was way to young to know the other hardships that this life had to bring….

I was depressed for a few years and I had a good reason. I have wanted babies for my whole life…I mean since I had baby dolls in the plastic cribs and strollers..wanted a baby of my own. I could not have babies, and was told if I even tried to have a baby that I would probably die….die…die…

Wow, sad was not the word for me at that time, I am suprised that my husband stuck around for my depression, it was crazy. I cried all the time, just wanted to sleep, and sadly I was so angry at God for taking away the one thing I ever wanted in my life…so yes I know depression!

However, a small still voice told me to get up and do something..anything to make myself feel better. I prayed.

And prayed, God put me in a place that allowed me to work with children and to have an impact on their lives, while still not my children, they were young sponges ready to learn how to face this life. Again, some of the hardest things I have ever had to do, dangling those precious souls in front of my face, still not my babies…

What did I do…I kept working with children, praying, breathing, crying, trusting God, and being. I was so lost for so long, I wasn’t sure that I would ever climb out of the funk I was in. I was tired of being sad..

It surely was not overnight that I got myself together..but I did realize that life is too short to be moping around acting like a victim! I prayed and asked God to put someone on my life that would make me happy, failing to understand at the time that I had to be that person… one else could make me happy..but me..

I made a change in my is certainly a much better journey and it is easier being happy than it is being downtrodden all the should try it, especially if you are that person with the stormy little rain cloud following you around.

Not sure if that is you…notice the next time you are around they leave, stop talking or avoid you… just might be..lighten up stormy…life is a one way trip…